TALI & LOZ SPIRITUAL PODCAST

Ep 13. Following Guidance

October 29, 2021 Laura Konst Season 1 Episode 13
TALI & LOZ SPIRITUAL PODCAST
Ep 13. Following Guidance
Show Notes Transcript

I am talking to Cari Palmer,  writer, speaker and master in following guidance. She shares her story where she went from A-Z (from Abused to Zen), and how following guidance turned her turbulent life into a peaceful one.
She also shares a very intriguing sneak peak of her upcoming book as well!

What I have learned from her; deeply follow what guidance says, no matter how uncomfortable and crazy it feels. 

Sit back, relax and be inspired!

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Laura Konst:

Hi and welcome to the Tali and Loz podcast where we discuss spirituality together. Today I have someone with me from the other side of the ocean, Cari Palmer, and she is a writer, a speaker, and she used to be on the radio as well. And now she has the last few years so much has happened in her spiritual world. And I would love for her to share that with me. And with you guys. So hi, Cari.

Cari Palmer:

Hello, Laura, thank you so much for having me. It's awesome talking with you.

Laura Konst:

Thank you. Thank you being a podcast on the other side of the world. It's a big, because you're close to Seattle.

Cari Palmer:

Yes, this is the time

Laura Konst:

we make it work. Yeah.

Cari Palmer:

Yeah. Yes.

Laura Konst:

So tell us about yourself Cari How? Who are you? What is your life? And why are we talking?

Cari Palmer:

Wow, my life is something that Laura, honestly, if I had not lived it, I would not believe it could be possible to live the life I live. And one thing I do know everybody tells me how critical it is to point out that I came from a really horrific childhood it would be people do want to see that the contrast because it was it was horrible. My mom married five men will be 26 times by the time I was in sixth grade. The first four husbands were violent abuse of sexual abuse, you name it. The violence ended the day my mother shot my fourth father she paralyzed from the waist down shot him with a gun. That was the last day of violence but is anybody who knows who came from any kind of abuse you've never that doesn't go away it's like you can take you know take the ship is your it's gonna stay with you. So all of my life, I've carried the victim card, I was a victim anything went on nothing. Oh, you done me wrong. Everybody was you know, everyone is out to get me I blamed everybody. I blamed my mother, for everything that went wrong in my life. Until I realized that I am the sole driver of my bus. Nobody can make anything happen to me. But me. I mean, I did quit counseling, I mean, I was able to pull myself beyond that and have the stain completely removed from any pain in my childhood, to where I mean, even the sexual abuse, I can talk about any of it openly, because it was just part of my story. We have the stories that we create, when we come here to be on this planet, we come here, we plan, just things that are going to happen to us throughout our life for us to get through. As a matter of fact, I did a meditation the other day just to go back. And in this meditation, I saw a vision of myself, my mother was giving birth to me. And I was talking with a spirit guide a feminine energy. And this, this spirit was saying, Are you sure you're up for this incarnation? Are you sure you want to take on all the stuff that you've set up yourself? Are you sure you can handle it and I was like, bring it. I'm so ready, I can do it. And I went back and forth from being in utero in her womb, I can see that. And then back talking to the spirit guide and then sub me I was in and I was born. But so I was set into this lifetime with the heave ho of challenges. From my two sisters were beautiful, gorgeous, everything was perfect. I was horrid. I mean, I had like teeth that were terrible. I was overweight, but it was like everything that I look back on. I got through, turn it. So when we get through something, when I got through this, this childhood story when I realized that it was just a story. It was not what defined me, it was something I went through, I came out the other side. And at that point, you drop that, that baggage just falls away from you. And then you're opening yourself up to move on to the next story. So I was pulled along this journey my entire life always searching for something not having a clue what it was supposed to be knowing full well I'm on stage 1000s of people are listening. And at one point I knew it was because I was a singer and a dancer I used to perform. But I felt so empty when I performed because I remember being on the stage and it was so it was so from ego like look what I can do. I had a vision one day when I was driving my car, I have a lot of visions when I'm driving people so watch out that I am supposed to be on stage. But it's not about Look what I am Look at me lucky. It's about what I can do for you how I can transform your life. And so I mean all of these visions have come through that I'm supposed to help people change their lives. But it was following a spiritual journey that landed in my lap in the fall of 2016. A woman won a contest on my radio show. And in trying to not have her drive all the way to the station. I was going to meet with her to give her her prize package. And when we finally met there was something about her I wanted to stalk her I didn't know what it was was like I Her name was unique. She was different. And when I saw her Facebook page, it was like really UI like crystals below you can relate to that. But I didn't know anything about any of it. the only the only scale that I used at that point in life was the confidence scale that we have. I did speech in Toastmasters, like the woman I was at 30 was in a room with a woman I am today she would be scared to death of me, because she was a solid zero pond scum. And I'm a 10. I'm confident. I didn't know at that time that energy, it's all energy, we're raising our vibration. I mean, I learned so this woman gave me referred me to a book and the first book was money and the law of attraction by Abraham Hicks. That's all it was. And I had never heard of law of attraction. So I listened to that book, she recommended audible because I was commuting. And the second I started listening to these words, it was like, it all resonated at all. It's like, I know this. It was a part of me that knew it. And then she recommended a second book, in which after that I was done. It was weaned from her. But from there, they took me to the next book, The next book, The next book, one of them, I think the third book I listened to was Eckhart Tolle is the power of now. And I remember listening to this book, and this man, he's talking, he's so like Zen like, and he's saying, you just need to be present, you need to just be right now. And I'm like, right? Who can do that? I mean, I'm arguing with this guy that's so peaceful, I can't believe him. And then I realized, like, two, three weeks later, I was living in complete presence. And it was like, every book, peel back layers of my onion. And it just it revealed to me what I already know what we all already know. But we're born under this cloud of, you know, unknowing, and we just we have no idea. So these, this trail of breadcrumbs in the form of books, and now I'm probably I don't even know how many hundreds of hours I've listened to. But each one led me to the next book. And each one from our soul pre planning, our soul groups, akashic records. I know so much that I never thought I would know about the science behind all of this, you know, it's like I, I'm reading science books, because I'm learning I just want to know everything. So I got to this place, where I realized this was all within the last year, the last year, my life has been magically transformational. Because I only follow guidance, guidance takes me to where I need to be what I need to do next. And then it, it always unfolds for me into something just amazing and beautiful. And then I realized, and literally in the last year, I am no longer searching. No more workshops, though. And I didn't think it was possible to ever get to a place in life where you didn't have that thing you were looking for. And when I realized this, I realized I've completely come full circle, I've come to where I'm the knowing of everything I need to know. And now the vision I just had that's been row Institute two weeks ago said, Now is the time this minute, I am launching myself as a speaker. And so I've actually reached out to a couple of churches, the spirits of the spiritualist churches around here, and I said, I'm coming in, and I'm going to be doing a talk for free for you guys for right now. Because I'm launching the speaking career and I will never be able to do this for you again. So I'm like, you know, it's the opportunity is now you know, when do you would you like me to come basically, because I'm going to change people's lives, I'm going to show people that you can live from spirit, you can completely eliminate ego completely. And if I could do this, if I can come from this abuse child from Henderson, Nevada, to a place to where I'm living in zen, every minute of every day, I'm so peaceful, I'm so present. It's a thing we all can get here. And it's like, I know how to do it. I did it. I found the map. And it's so easy. And it's not like some people get into one thing, like somebody will dive straight into non duality. It's like they want to sit there and they just own every day. That's all they want to do. That's awesome. They're still doing something. But there's so much more. Yeah, don't ever stop with one modality with one type of, you know, the Monroe Institute Buddhism, every single thing is going to open you up. And if you close yourself down, you're not going to be guided to go anywhere else. And you're just limiting your perspectives. Yeah, so yeah, it's just a matter of opening yourself up, going inside, shutting down everything and listening to the voice in your head. I went for a walk yesterday. And just knowing I was going to be chatting with you, I started thinking about the craziness going on in the world right now. People are hating each other. I did a post assignments division everywhere. And it's getting worse. And I did a post recently about we have to visualize that we are like behind a cruise ship, the weight behind the cruise ship, the middle is so beautiful and calm. And the two sides are getting bigger and bigger and bigger. That is what's happening. And then this post I wrote, we need to come to the middle just not to forgive the other person that's yelling at you from the other side. But to come back to silence and to open up your mind and heart to think Wait, why? What belief was instilled in me At what age that made me feel so hostile towards this other person. But then I started laughing because I'm thinking we're listening to all this stuff telling us what we need to feel. But if we listen to the one authority ourselves, our higher self and if we shut everything else down, we would know immediately what we need to do. But the one thing we need to listen To our own guidance, he says we don't listen to it. Nobody listens to their own guidance. Yes. And if they did, there would not be any disparity in the world right now we'd be such a happy planet but people are some belief that was instilled as a child. A belief is only a thought you continue to think change your beliefs, you change your thoughts, you change your life that people think No, that's my belief. My grandma gave that to me. She fought hard for that belief. And that belief, like no, no, no, get rid of it.

Laura Konst:

Yes. Let it go. It's your own. It's your own life that you have to take control of like you said, You drive in your own bus. You know your driver, you can have control and I think that's what really impressed me about your story is that you come from a world that I've I've never seen in my life, like we had completely different childhoods and still have this beautiful now career starting to be speaker but your blogs you've done so many, you've done beautiful videos with Candace as well. Kinda senesin on the spiritual connection now YouTube channel, I'll put a link in the description. Okay, cool. Excellent. This, it's because you've got 49 49 episodes?

Cari Palmer:

Yeah, yeah, we're shy of a year. Yeah, yeah.

Laura Konst:

And they're very easy to watch, because they're all about 10-12 minutes rough, roughly. So that's, you know, I've got nothing to do for 15 minutes and have a quick look. And there is always something in one of those episodes that I take away from it. So I would definitely recommend those. And I'm thinking how, like, your mind must be so strong, like you must trust yourself so much, that you've been able to make these huge changes. You told me when we were just talking that you've also left your radio career after 25 years. Yes. And he left a lot more you're going to move to Oregon and like Wow,

Cari Palmer:

my husband left my life you love you and your everything I've left everything behind. Because guidance told me I had to be I've known I need to be on the Oregon coast. But you know, my daughter's off to college, she's a senior she's going to be you know, she's a grown woman. But I just know I can't be in this city anymore where I don't fit in because I am vibrating at a much higher peaceful Zen like place. And to see all these people living and arguing for their limitations every minute of every day, just wanting to fight for that American dream to you know, have all this money and retire and then just sit there and work in our garden and drop dead. And like, is that really what you want to do? So if we were doing what we're told to do, because everybody's done it before, and there's people like me that just There's something inside of us that stirs us and says, No, there's more. And we just keep going for it. And that's why like, I felt like I'm a total misfit in this area, which I'm totally fine with that. I know everybody around here, the people in this neighborhood anybody would have seen in a bad blog post. I know they look at me, like I've done a third eye. I've got antlers. I've got like antennas sticking out of my head. I'm an alien. They look at me like, you're out there because I'm just too out there for people. So yeah, I moved to the land of misfits in Oregon to where we all fit in. We all hit it off wonderfully because I don't want to. And it's not like I'm like not wanting to conform to society. Because No, I don't want to conform to society. I want to conform to my guidance. Always right.

Laura Konst:

Yes, just vibrating on a higher higher level. It's very, very special. And I think that I saw a code on your website, and I was really curious about what you meant with it. And the quote is as follows is changing the world by planting a seed at the time. What do you mean

Cari Palmer:

by that? planting one state at a time and that is like my sister Well, I lost a sister last October. And I mean it was like she was one of those people. She when we left our childhood. There were three of us my oldest sister she's doing okay, I mean she hasn't had counseling, she has a lot of memory she hasn't dealt with. I mean I just catapulted to where I am now but my other sister went downhill she married my man like my mother, she had three kids and horrible life. I mean I gave her I would just try so much just to give her like a nugget of something to grasp on to I mean, it took forever but she finally within probably six months before she died she finally left the man that she'd been wanting to leave for 30 years and a friend of mine that you know, she knew all of my conversations with my sister one day we were walking in the park and she grabbed me by the arm she was cherry she goes you don't realize it because I'm like thinking my sister I want to help my sister she goes you already have she's like you planted the seeds. And this I mean I plant them and I don't get to see them grow I move on. Because that's just it I don't see invested in the people that I mean I will say the nuggets to them. I will plant a seed and then off I go and I know that the tree will sprout. One of my friends here she's an entertainer, and I've met with her multiple times and just the look on her face always when we have conversations because I could see that I've said something that just blows her mind. And one of them was she wants to control her entire environment. Many people do. She wants to you know everything has to be just so and she's like get so stressed. And I grabbed her by the arms one day and I said Listen, I said Close your eyes and hear what I have to say. Like I said, see yourself in a canoe, you're like going upstream, you got boulders, you know, you're like paddling, you're just like going crazy. I'm like you're fighting, you're trying not to capsize. I said, Now, throw your paddles in the water and lay back in your boat, what happens? And so she's sitting there, and you can just see the column come over her. And she's like, wow, I'm like floating downstream. I'm like, exactly. When we stop trying to control our universe, we just flow naturally with the flow and all the good stuff comes our way. And so like, she would come back to me frequently, like saying, just that nugget has changed her life. So I see, I say one thing to somebody that they need to hear and I move on, I don't sit there like, Did it work? Did it work? Did you grow? You know, did you grow with a sprout, I just move on. And so I do know, there's so many people that come back to me. And they also do a lot of music analogy, that they're hitching onto my wagon, because they've like, they want to continue on their journey and like, get to where I am. But it's just the planting of seeds. That's what I do. That's what my blog posts do. That's what my articles do. That's what my book is going to do is just giving a little bit of inspiration that somebody will plant and they will remember, they'll just they'll know where that nugget came from. Yeah. And they'll grow from it.

Laura Konst:

And you can grow from it. Wow. And is it is it, you've learned to skip because it is a skill, I suppose that you just have to be able to say, very relatively little to someone, and they grow it is a skill. Yes. Was it always in you? Or do you feel like this has grown over the years that you've been reading so much that you've grown your writing skills, you're talking skills,

Cari Palmer:

to be quite honest, looking back at my life, even though it was a horrible life, and I had no role models. So becoming an adult was very challenging, I didn't know quite how to have a stable job. I just, I mean, I was like, I mean, I was all over the map. But everywhere I went as a very young person, I was 19 years old, and I moved to California and I started working in this manufacturing plant. And there's just something about me that I've just always been thorough and caring and I just I'm very, I just I couldn't hurt a fly. I mean, I love every I just I've always loved even though I hated myself at the time, I hated me until I was probably 35. And that's another huge thing, self love. But it's like, everywhere I went within six months at this company, I'm I'm promoted to assistant supervisor over 40 people, I'm 19 years old. And these people are all in the industry forever. It's because it's just this energy that I've always put out there. And so it's been, I was a manager for a merchandising service company for many years. And it's like, they kept promoting me and promoting me and I kept thinking, you're gonna find out one day that I have no idea what I'm doing. But I'm like, I'm just gonna keep faking it. And I just kept getting promoted. And when I would tell them, I have to quit because I'm moving, I'm moving to another place. It was like the stars would scramble and realign. It's like, guess what? We're going to promote you to regional manager, and we'll have you there because we need somebody there. And every single tile, it was always like I couldn't make this stuff up. It's like I didn't even quit. I just keep getting more and more. Yeah, there's always been something inside of me that's been at the team or thing to working with others. And it's just been, I think a genuine love for me about every living thing that it's like, I don't want to see anything in pain. I don't want to see anybody hurting. And I just that's where I think it's like I just, if I can just give one nugget of something that will just live a light in somebody. And it does and it does and it's just the in then I so many of these people too. That's how I know that I've made a difference because these are the people I hear from down the road and they're just like, you know how I changed their lives? And it's like, it's good to see you when you know you're impacted life. Yeah,

Laura Konst:

definitely. And I think that's also the purpose of being an earth like I've learned in the last few podcasts what you just said as well, like our souls come together. So circle, Phoebe taught me and actually the podcast went live. Today, the eighth of October. And favorite taught me in the beginning of our lives, the souls come together that you are supposed to meet in the human form. And then you go like you said, you go each way, and then you learn and for the souls that have learned their complete journey, they completed the journey. In the next one, they may not be reincarnated, but they may be spirit guides themselves. Maybe this is your last last

Cari Palmer:

incarnation. You know what I honestly, completely have been knowing that. I've been knowing that it's like, because I honestly can't imagine that I could have come to this place to feel. I mean, I was walking in a park the other day, and I remember looking at the ground and just I mean I look at stuff and be like oh look at that pretty rock. But I remember thinking it's like when my life has got to this place to where I'm beautifully happy. Every minute of every day. I don't have any negative emotion. I'm like, how can it possibly get any better than this? And then it does I'm like, I mean, it gets better than phenomenal. It's like, but we can all be here. And that's, that's what my journey is about to let people know that. If you, first of all, stop the madness, turn off your television, turn off your television, don't listen to the news. don't join the collective in the anger that everybody's creating. Because they're just, it's just getting more hostile. If you shut down, you quiet your mind, you have to do this, this is number one step. First, you have to learn to love yourself. I hated myself. And so that took time, but it was really realizing that I am lovable. And put affirmations all over your house, if you need to start like if you can't say I love you say, how about maybe I can love you, and then you will work up to love. When you realize that we are all love. That's all we are, then you do realize you come from love. And when you get to love yourself, you can't be loved, first of all, by anybody until you are love, you know, because then it's just a need what we get from each other, we have to come to this place to where you love yourself, and then you need to Union, I'm pretty crap, you have to shut up. You have to quiet your mind. You do whatever you need to do for me, I received guidance. I'll share this story, I received guidance. When my daughter went off to college, we have a bigger house here. And I work 45 minutes south in Olympia and radio. And I walked in the door one day, and at that point, my husband was the mayor of the town. And it's like, I hate politics, like really. And I got guidance that I needed to move next to where I worked. And that was the guidance. It wasn't get a divorce. It wasn't separate. It was just get a place near where I work. And so I'm like, Okay, and so I mentioned it to my husband, he's like, what you're leaving me, I'm like, No, I'm just getting a place. I mean, nobody can get this but me, but I follow guidance when I get it. So I began that September, looking for the place that I was going to work to live. And you'll get to know me. So I'm like looking at I'm determined. I start before work and after work every single day, I'm looking at apartments and houses and all these places and for sale for rent, because I have four animals and they have to be with me because I'm all over their person. Yeah, and I'm doing this all through December 11. And I didn't have a place yet my daughter was getting ready to come home for spring break. A place did magically appear that I was going to settle for and then I just you know what I'm like throwing in the towel. I'm waiting until after the new year. The day my daughter was driven back to school in January January 7, I get a text message while I'm at work. Hey, are you still looking for a house in Olympia? And immediately I'm like, Oh, you Dodo. I know more than anybody. The more we try to make stuff happen. The more I'm out there trying to create this environment that I've sold him. The more we're pushing it away It never, it can never come nearest because we're trying so hard to find it. The second my daughter was gone, I get this text message. So I said can I meet you after work today? He said yes. As I'm driving down this street in Mayberry, it was just like, I'm like, Oh my god, this is where I'm living. And I mean, I knew, I just knew immediately that was it. I walked in, I saw the man. I'm like, Oh my god, it was perfect. So I moved into this house in February 8 of that year 2019. And I didn't know why I did it. I just knew I had to move in. And so I moved and I start walking to work. And then that's when I met Candace Sanderson I, I read her book, and I was guided, I'm like, I'm gonna send her an email. So we start communicating. Next thing you know, we're doing a video channel. But I received guidance in. So I moved there in February. In April, I was guided to call my husband at the time and say, apparently you and I need to go on a backpacking trip. And he's excited like, okay, cool, but I'm like, I'm like, you know what, I hate backpacking can we do day trips? So my guidance told me I needed to go backpacking with him, but I'm like, I'm arguing like, No, I don't backpack I'll just go hike. So he was like, excited to do it. So we went on, I don't know, seven or eight hikes that summer. And it brought us to such a connection, one that we had not had, in 20 years when I was so madly in love with this man. Again, it was like, Oh my god, I want my husband. So that happened to the summer. In October of that year, I was going about my business and I got guidance to go to Michael's and buy paint and canvas. Like what Brenda said, but what do I do? I go to Michael's I got my 40% off coupon and I get canvas and paint and paint brushes. I set it on the table. I'm like, Are you kidding me? I'm like now what do I do with this? Ding I got a text message. A friend in Texas sends me a message say look at my mom does a video of how she does this new pouring technique with art fluid art. And I'm like, that's it. So I now am starting to play with all this paint and everything. So I've got my painting I've got this man that I'm so madly in love with. And then it comes around to my lease is coming up do and, of course I'm moving back home. I love my husband. I want to be with him eternally. So my daughter's coming home for spring break, she's gonna have elective surgery, I'm moving back into the house, we're all three in the house doors locked. Two days after we move in, we are in lockdown from a pandemic. So literally, wow. I mean, my life, it's like the pandemic could not have been more custom designed for it's like I designed the best experience. So now for the entire pandemic, I am painting, I had an art studio, and that's all I did, I painted, I would have gotten nuts, because as you deduced, I've got a little bit of energy just a little bit. So just following all this guidance, it brought me to this place of absolute bliss. And then it brought me to this place of way too much inventory. And now I've got a gallery on the Oregon coast selling my art. I'm the lead artist now. It's like I've created paintings and jewelry. And I've got tables and all kinds of stuff I painted. And I have a gallery. I'm like, How did this happen? It's just me, following the guidance that comes to me, that creates this in credible life. Wow, it's all guidance.

Laura Konst:

That is incredible with you, because you help people with that as well. And with your well in many ways. Like I said, with your blogs with your writing, you've got another book coming, you're speaking and people can meet you as well. Like, can they do consultations with you as well?

Cari Palmer:

Absolutely, yeah, on my website, which is just Kerry palmer.com you can there is you can get advanced notice for when the book is done. If you want to book a speaking engagement, it's there as well. And then also one on one consultation. And I do that every minute of every day I find myself it's like I'm consulting constantly, and I don't do you know, it's like I'm just doing it because somebody needs something. Yes. And knowing that just 10 words that I might say will impact their life and their decision making moving forward. Definitely Andy,

Laura Konst:

what do you say to people? Like, if they say to you, uh, Cari, I have a nine to five job. I've got kids and I've got this and I've got that and you know, if I have the feeling that I need to go painting, I didn't have time. But what would you say to that person?

Cari Palmer:

I would say what is your gut telling you to do? Everybody that I know that like does the nine to five thing to clocking in. I have a friend right now actually that a dear friend that I met at the Monroe Institute recently. And when I first met him, and I hear him talking like really athletic, outdoorsy kind of guy, and then I hear him having conversations about what he does for a living. And I'm like, I have this complete vision come through me that he is trying to squeeze himself into a tube of toothpaste. And I pulled him aside I told him that I'm like, you are trying to become something that you are not. And he completely gets it. He's like I know it. But it's like we are the beliefs that were taught growing up. You have to have that nine to five job. You have to have 2.5 kids, you need to have the house in this neighborhood and you better have your lawn all manicured and do not let those bushes get out of control because your neighbors are going to talk you these are all the beliefs that were given growing up. And but it's like, none of this matters. Like dropped the nine to five then lady, you know, love those kids to pieces, show them that you do not have to clock in to go to a job. That whatever comes to you inspirationally. If you think you want to be painting, you don't want to be clocking in and out, I'm sorry, drop the job, start doing what your guidance is going to tell you to do. And you will never fail. One of the biggest the way I put it to people all the time is twice in my life. I've had these huge intersections that I get to once I was married previously to a man that it's a miracle story, how I met him, but I manifested him it was all a miracle. That I mean it was I he got me out of Las Vegas, he brought me to Ohio. That's what I had. I was spiraling in Vegas. I was going to die there. I was like, I mean drugs, drinking drunk driving. I mean, I didn't care. I didn't care. I wish I three times I was committing suicide. I was like, I just didn't want to be on this planet. But something bigger than me kept telling me No, no, no, no, no, you don't get to do that. You still get to see that you have a purpose here. So I was with this man living in his house for five and a half years. And so you know, my mother got a gun when things got bad. And she shot my dad, I went to a bookstore. And I honestly did not know that there was a self help section. I've never been to a bookstore. I've read stuff. So I read. I got two books. And I brought them home and I started reading these books and these two books, they just kind of lit a fire in me like, I can make choices that are going to be okay, I'm going to be okay. I don't have to live this life. I can leave him. He threatened constantly. If you do this, we're getting a divorce. If you do that, we're getting a divorce. And I lived in fear. Then I after I read these two books, I had this fire in my belly. It said the next moment. He says fill in the blank. Dude, this we're getting a divorce. I was gone. Yeah. So one night, we went out to a karaoke bar which we never went to bars because clearly I would cheat on him. That's his mindset. Right? And that night, I sang and then people sent a request slips for songs. They wanted me to sing either with them or solo. They wanted to hear me sing I was so elevated. I was like,

Laura Konst:

I can say,

Cari Palmer:

yeah, we night. Yeah, we got home that night. He goes, did you have fun and like, it was the best night ever. And he said, good, because if you ever sing in public again, we're getting a divorce. The second those words came out of his mouth, I swear, Laura, I felt this entire lightness like this whole being came out of me and I felt like angelic I felt like angels were singing harps are playing. I felt so light and I'm like, I'm not here anymore. And so I went to bed that night, I slept better than I slept in five years. The next morning, I moved out, I did the one thing he threatened to do constantly throw me out, I moved out. And that was the beginning of my transformation. But then when I was working with this company that promoted me to regional manager, yes, I was like, I just I was playing Hi, great job, you know, great career, miserable lifestyle. But they called me one day and they said, here's the deal. We are now bringing all regional managers are three of us into corporate in headquarters. You're gonna you're we're moving you to Detroit. Moving to Detroit, he and your mind, they're like, No, you have no choice. You're moving to Detroit. I'm like, No, I'm not. And they said you won't have a job. I'm like, so I'm gainfully unemployed. The second I hung up that phone knowing I was losing my job. Yeah, I felt so like I felt the same angelic, like, just rat angel wings wrapped around me. And it was just saying you're going to be taken care of. So what I tell people now is when you, you come to a fork in the road, don't everybody looks at the nine to five, it's like they look at the money, they look at the security what they have to do for everybody else. They're not thinking about what they need to do. And stuff. When you get to that fork, go to the feeling. How does it feel following the money, you don't know how it feels not falling in the money, but one of them is gonna feel icky. The one that feels achy, go the other way. And so basically, I say you're standing on the edge of a cliff. And I actually found something that I read I wrote recently, like that was pretty powerful. I need to remember that. It's like when you're going to jump out of an airplane or a cliff, I used to be a cliff diver, you're on that edge that adrenaline you feel when you're there. It's just like the whole you know, it's like fear that fear less a micro second, the second you've jumped, yes, you are soaring, you are flying through the air and you feel delicious. And it's like that you just don't know where you're going. That's why we're here. That's why we don't jump we don't take that like I'm not going to take the job, I'm going to go ahead and just not do it and see what happens. I promise you I will stake my life on this every single time you follow your gut and you don't follow the security because it's security and you follow the feeling that feels good. You're going to land in a place so much more beautiful than you could have ever even

Laura Konst:

imagine. So even if you're scary take scary unknown Yeah, it's

Cari Palmer:

known it's gonna scare you to death but you don't know what it is you can't anticipate the fear you just don't know what it's going to be but it's that sort of like just trust that we made this plan that we came into this planet to find our little trail of breadcrumbs and continue to follow them at any cost and that's most people can't do the any cost part because we tend to partner up automatically when we come You know, so that's why it's like I had to leave everything behind because I have to follow my guidance my guidance has brought me to this place my guides probably talking to you my guidance is changing everybody's life to show them that they can live from such a beautiful happy space

Laura Konst:

and that gut feeling I've had something similar last year when we got made redundant because of the COVID you know, got a job offer him something and he was like No, I gotta take it and then all of a sudden I find myself having my shop having my podcast which I didn't know why I was doing it but now I do it's it's Yeah, I can I definitely believe what you said just that that feeling but it can be so uncomfortable. It's very scary, but I know it will work you know, Tali and Loz is going to the next level. Hopefully we'll get a physical shop very soon. And with everything else that's go in it will be amazing. Yeah.

Cari Palmer:

And it will be just and the thing is just know that I know that it's Yeah, it's just just knowing just visualize that shot, the way you see it. Visualize all the bells and whistles and make it bigger than you envision it, make it just see it. And it is there. We can create anything we can create. We create our own reality and we create it by how we feel we just we could manifest miracles and I literally Laura, I find myself manifesting a miracle every day. It's like I'm like how can anybody have a life like to where miracles happen constantly? Yeah, it's just it's so beautiful that we all can do it. It's just just following that path and just trusting that we are all we need. We have everything within ourselves to just do wonderfully and do well and provide. I coming from the childhood I did we were poor. We had our car repossessed from our front yard. It was like it was it was a tough, it was tough. We were always and so when you Grow up that way. So, you know, all the last 27 years I've been 23 years, which we're not married anymore, but we're best friends. But I came from this place of lack. And so he would even he was, we were fine. We were financially we were totally fine. I was working, he was working, we were plenty abundant. But if that that old messaging that, you know, we bought, we shouldn't buy that it's too much money. It's like I just kept kept keeping this with me. But when I was guided to move to the place of Olympia, I realized that that belief was gone, because there's no way I would have signed up to go pay like an additional mortgage, basically.

Laura Konst:

Yeah, you know, I'm

Cari Palmer:

like, here, I'm like, I'm, and he's like, what can we afford? I'm like, I went from this place of lack, to this place of feeling, feeling abundant. And it's like, when you feel it, it's like money makes its way to me constantly. So it's like, it just changed how you feel when you have an old belief that, you know, we'll never have enough, we'll never have enough, you know, you hold on to those beliefs. Yeah, it's up to you. And when you flip the script to here, when I went to Sedona, I went there for a week. And I remember standing on top of these rocks, just screaming clarity now just I went there for clarity, like, What am I supposed to do with my life. And this is what my book is all going to be about was this, this transformation Sedona brought to me. So what was delivered to me in Sedona was abundance in the form. And I guess I could just say, of love. So because we all think it's abundance, it's about money and financial security, because we're humans, we have to have X amount of money, that that trip showed me that we can get things we can be filled with abundance in so many other ways. And it's not about money.

Laura Konst:

Like you said, prosperity and abundance is not necessarily having a Ferrari or whatever. It's about the love that you have for yourself, for other people, but also people to you, because if you shine love, then it will come back to you. Yes,

Cari Palmer:

it's an eye. Yeah, yeah. And that's I make a point about doing that. Like, when I'm walking down the street or something, I find that I become a hermit. They're living alone in Olympia for a year, I really became a hermit. And then we had a pandemic. So two years, I was isolated from people and I really grew to love my isolation. Because that was the time to, for me to really expand and grow and then raise my vibration. Because it's like, when you get around negative energy, and you know, you get out, walk into a room, or there's people screaming, it's like, that sucks the energy out of you. So coming to this place of silence inside of myself was the further gift that I was able to give myself to just really help get me to where I am to be this peaceful being. But it's just, it's a matter of just wherever you are, go in a room, close the door, and then you're alone. And then you have time with yourself, but put your phone away. Don't turn the television on. And just quiet your mind. Maybe a lot of people think they have to sit and do this, like 45 minute meditation and listen, no, you don't just go be still or go to the forest, or go to the mountains, or go sit on the beach. ground yourself by nature, because we were not supposed to build these big houses and have all these fancy. You know what kind of countertop you having? Oh, my God, the latest trip. I'm like, I don't subscribe to anything like that. To me. This is just a shelter. It's just a structure to keep us dry. keep us warm. But it's all about connecting to all that is which is everything outside of this house outside. And yeah, rain or shine.

Laura Konst:

It's totally natural. Mother Earth is taking care of

Cari Palmer:

us. We take care of her. That's just it. We need to take better care of her.

Laura Konst:

Yes, definitely. And so tell me you went to Arizona, Sedona. And that's where you had your epiphany as well about your new book that's coming. Yes. Can you tell us a bit about your book already?

Cari Palmer:

Yeah, so when I went to Sedona and going the way I do, I don't have any plans. I planned my flight, my rental car by parking at the airport, and four nights hotel, I was going to allow guidance to take me where I needed to go to do what I needed to do. And I was going to love Biden's to tell me where to book the last two nights in the hotel. And so I go there and literally, I was guided right away to just go spend an entire day on Bell Rock, which I hiked all over. As you know, I'm energetic. I could not stop hiking, I went like each day 10 to 15 miles and I just couldn't stop. And it was like, I would go in my room at night. And I'm like, I've got to go back out and look at the mountains more and I just I couldn't do it. And then I would completely pass out at night. So I was guided to book a place in the town right before it for the last two nights. My life. And so it was I ended up I go on a hike that morning and for some reason I decided I'm going to go check in early but I'm like no, you it was COVID it was like you cannot get in your room until four o'clock. So it'd be ridiculous to go check in. But I'm like, I need to go now. So I went and I as I went to go check in a man was walking out he and I'm finding the manager and we both check in but we both have to sit outside and wait for hours. And this man and I started having a conversation I just I like it because it isn't my book. All I can say is that meeting this man. We had we talked for a total of two hours between sitting before we could check in and live that night we talked again and then he flew back to where he was from the next morning. So we never even hugged, touched hands or anything. I found out I don't even know if I'm gonna say it. So yeah, the man doesn't live, let's just say this way he ended up he ends up dying, like seven weeks and five days after I meet him. But then I ended up a woman that I met on a zoom call, I was drawn, I'm like, I have to reach out to this woman. And I reached out to her after the zoom call. I'm like, I don't know why it is about you. But I need to tell you this story about this person. I met Sedona and so we're having a conversation and she said, Do you want me to do a soul retrieval and like, Okay, I'm not sure what she's doing. So it took her a while, but she eventually came back to me and I recorded it on zoom. He could not wait for this woman when she first went into the meditation to contact him. She said she felt such energy she said I've never experienced it was like this swirling to all of us where she was dizzy, the swirling was so intense, because he had been waiting for her for me to find her to talk to her to get in touch with him. So he could explain everything that would happen like he didn't mean to die so soon. It's like he let he's like thank me profusely for the seven weeks and five days we had together. One thing that was with him too is I when I saw him, and when some of the stuff that transpired It was like I saw him and I, in multiple lifetimes together, it was like I saw this dance of us. We've spent so many centuries and lifetimes together. And so here you know, you automatically think it must be my eternal love. It's my eternal love. And he in what he let her know and somebody else since then, two people have talked to him. That No, no, no, we were not supposed to be together in this lifetime. But the last thing he had to do before he died, was meet me. So he flew from Boston to Sedona I fly from Seattle to Sedona I booked this place to where we meet, we talked for a few hours, and then he could go back and then he was able to die, but he had to meet me before he died. So when he died he went to he visited with his loved ones and then he said, I can't stay I need to go down and help carry. He is my ghostwriter for my book. I mean just like literally I have a ghostwriter helping me write my book and it's not a ghostwriter. It's a real ghost so the story is just so magical it's like spider guides yeah yeah and so in the whole book is about I mean it's the title is only beautiful things happen to me and it's about how following guidance and listening to guidance and trusting guidance will lead you to just a beautiful and incredible life

Laura Konst:

the carry then your life is lovely it's not it's it's the one of the biggest roller coasters I've probably ever seen. And yeah, and but I also get that you've left almost everywhere in the States.

Cari Palmer:

My move to the Oregon coast is my 99th move. No the cat Yes. And it's funny cuz I'm like visualizing number 100 is going to be the house on the water. So I can just see the water and feel the water and hear the energy of the water for the rest of my life because that's where I'm plugged in. Yeah, I mean I just stand on the side of the ocean and I could be like the world's biggest charger gets plugged in like the energy I get from it. Being in nature for me it's such a beautiful gift. And when you get here too It's like all we have are limited five senses as humans when you start living from spirit everything is so unlimited it's like everything you could see it tastes better feels better sounds better. Yeah, you just live from a completely different perspective and you we can actually do this while we're alive in this lifetime just shedding the whole human story knowing everything was a story we came here to to get through all the world is a stage Shakespeare totally at it right? Yes it's just for acting out these roles we came here to do and we need to think you know what, I'm just gonna have fun with it. It's an earth game just have fun with it push yourself like how far can you possibly go? Because we are limited beings unlimited. We could do or be anything we want to do.

Laura Konst:

Absolutely beautiful Cari I think it's very inspirational and but if they're stuck or any you can always reach out to Cari. Yes, I'll put your your website and the all the YouTube videos that you do with Candice as well all in the description so people need to find you and your book. Do we know when it's coming out already? Or not yet?

Cari Palmer:

Yes, actually, I am doing really well with it. I fully expect to be done by the end of the year. So yeah, it's getting it's it's getting eautiful Yeah, I mean, just Yeah, like I just, that's why it's like I know when people get to meet me they will see my story they will see that. First of all I'm authentic because everybody who knows me who has watched me go through this journey that I mean especially my my former husband and my daughter, they see me as like, they saw me when I was volatile and human and like, emotional and all these things. And now they see me as this Zen master. So it's like people who've been there from the beginning of the journey to where I am now. There's no denying that you know, you can get to this place. And it just, we can live from here, we can actually live our life. And so I will be I know now I can live as long as I want to live. I've seen myself a good 4050 years left, changing lives, Touching Lives, just showing people that I can do this, if I could do this, because I was just a little abused girl from Henderson, Nevada. We all can get here and it's just, yeah, it's just all the stuff that we're told as humans. It's the big Yeah, what we're told what we're supposed to do versus what we feel we're supposed to do. Filled with the feelings of go with the feelings and you'll never be let down. Yeah. Yes,

Laura Konst:

that's all if you guys follow the guidance. Yeah. Well, Cari, I want to thank you so much for this. It's, yeah, to me, it's, it's super inspirational. It's like well, you know, when I have a little bad day, then I just think do you know what. I can just, I will, I will get over it. I'll get over it.

Cari Palmer:

I just have to and that's what I tell every everybody it's like if I talked to a friend that they've had a bad day, I'm like, just call me. Give me two minutes. And your day is different. And they know that they do. I have a lot of people who do call a lot. And it's like, that's why I'm here. Yeah, I'm here. I don't have energy.

Laura Konst:

That sounds absolutely like bliss, like Nirvana, as well, as they say.

Cari Palmer:

Sounds like I have. Yeah. In the first chapter of my book, like, Oh, I have arrived if you could win at being human. I won. I wrote, I rang the brass. I rang the bell. I grabbed the brass ring, I won. And now I'm sharing with everybody.

Laura Konst:

Thank you so much, Carrie, and have a wonderful weekend. Thank you so much.